Moms Talk: What Do You Think of the Tiger Mom?

This week's topic is Tiger Mom Amy Chua, who wrote the controversial book, “Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother.” Her style of parenting has been called everything from abusive to tough love. 

 Q:  WOULD YOU WANT TO BE THE TIGER MOM’S CHILD?

 A:  Let me preface this by saying that there are times a snapshot of my child-rearing skills could either warrant a citation from the health department, a Children & Youth Services hearing or a private room at Western Psych. 

Consequently, I am not qualified to pass judgment on another mom’s choices as to how she raises her child. I am intrigued, however, by the discussion that Tiger Mom Amy Chua has generated following her book release.  

She has been referred to as a monster, a nut, a child abuser and worse! But is she really?  Culturally, I see why she has been lambasted in the U.S. and not the Asian culture in which she was raised. 

But let’s be frank, the U.S. is a society that has many issues that need to be dealt with….overindulgence, obesity, lack of civic responsibility, entitlement.  The list goes on for not just the adults, but for our children too. 

But is her answer to those issues the correct one?

 While highly demanding parents may not be politically correct, I would not accuse them of not loving their children.  Mediocrity is just not an option for them.  

But, is it in your house?  It isn’t here.  We have expectations of each of our children.  I would like to think they are reasonable. 

Do poorly on a test?  That is OK assuming you were adequately prepared.  Interested in playing an instrument?  Great, but you choose the instrument because you have to practice.  Want to have a sleepover?  Sure, they are fun every now and then. 

Maybe therein lies the difference.

I think I started this by saying I was not qualified to pass judgment. I realize, however, that not only did I pass judgment on a woman I don’t know and a book I haven’t read, but have convinced myself we are doing a pretty good job. 

Remember, no snapshots.  Most days childrearing in our house is a shot in the dark with the hopes that each child will be happy, productive and maybe the next amazing scientist.  Other days, I just hope one doesn’t end up the next Unabomber.  

I suppose the bottom line is this question: Would I want to be the Tiger Mom’s child?  I don’t know, but I don’t think so. 

Would you?